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Habit #5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD Before I can walk in anothers shoes, I must first remove my own. (Unknown) It is our tendency to want to solve everyones problems before we even understand what the problem is. We simply do not listen. Someone who seeks first to understand, then to be

understood, listens first and talks second. This habit includes seeing things form anothers point of view before sharing your own. This habit is the key to communication because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. People will not expose their inner selves unless they fell genuine live and understanding. Once they fell it, they may tell you even more than you want to hear. When people talk we seldom listen because we are usually too busy preparing a response, judging, or filtering their words through our own paradigms.

It is typical of people to use one the these Five Poor Listening Styles: 1. Spacing Out: When someone is talking we ignore them because we are caught up in our own thoughts 2. Pretend Listening: this is more common. We pretend we are listening by making comments like, yeah, cool, and uh-huh. 3.

Selective Listening: We pay attention to only part of the conversation that interests us. 4. Word Listening: Occurs when we actually pay attention to what the person is saying, but we listen only to words, not the body language, the feeling, or the true meaning behind the words. 5. Self-centered Listening: We see everything from our own point of view. For example, You think your

day was bad, you should hear what happened to me. The result is that the person immediately closes up. Now that you have learned how to understand the other, you can seek to be understood. When you give feedback to someone and/ or express yourself, consider the following: 1. Is me feedback going to help this person or am I doing it just to suit myself?

2. Send I messages instead of you messages. Habit #5 Reflection Questions 1. What is your relationship like with your parents? 2. Do you think you parent(s)/guardian(s) understand you? Explain. 3.

Do you think you understand your parents (s)/guardians? Explain. 4. What are the benefits of taking time to understand and listen to your parents(s)/guardian(s)? 5. How can you better understand your parent(s)/guardian(s)? Habit #6 SYNERGIZE

Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much. Helen Keller What does synergize mean? Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create a better solution that either could alone. It is not your way or my way but a better way, a higher way. Synergy is creative co-operation, with an emphasis on the word creative. The whole is greater than the sum of the parts.

Synergy Synergy is: Synergy is Not: Celebrating Tolerating difference differences Teamwork Working

independently Open-mindedness Thinking your always Finding ways new and better right compromise

Synergy is Everywhere The Sequoia Tree (which grow to heights of 300 feet or more) grow in clumps and share a vast array of intermingled roots. Without each other, they would blow over in a storm. Synergy is About Celebrating Diversity

This includes differences in culture, race, gender, physical features, dress, language, wealth, family ,religion, lifestyle, education, interests, skills, age, style, etc. Roadblocks to Celebrating Differences 1. Ignorance: You are clueless. You do not know what other people believe, how they feel, or what they have

been through. 2. Cliques: When your group of friends becomes so exclusive that they begin to reject anyone who is not just like them 3. Prejudice: Not something we are born with, rather something that we learn. This is when we pre-judge someone based on their skin colour, religion, gender, language, etc.

Habit #7 SHARPEN THE SAW Habit #7 Habit # 7 is all about keeping your personal self sharp so that you can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of your life, your body, your brain, your heart, and your soul

Body The Physical Dimension Exercise Eat healthy Sleep Relax well Brain

The Mental Dimension Read Educate Write Learn new skills Heart The Emotional Dimension: Build

Give relationships service Laugh Soul The Spiritual Dimension Meditate Keep a journal

Pray Take in quality media Why is balance so important? It is because how you do in one dimension of life will affect the other three. For example, it is hard to be friendly (heart) when you are exhausted (body). Also,

when you are feeling motivated and in tune with yourself (soul), it is easier to focus on your studies (mind) and then be more friendly (heart)

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